Three Negative and Three Positive Reasons to Stay Single

Reasons to stay single?! Whaaa…NO. That’s the attitude many singles have toward singleness: “That’s ridiculous! Though I’m not dating at the moment, I actually do want to get married. I don’t want to stay single forever!” We’re told—by no other than the church—to only focus on being content, not look for a mate, and pretend…

A Glimpse of Heaven

My Beloved Child, Before you hear Me say anything else to you, please hear this: I love you more than you could ever know. I died to free you from the penalty of sin, and that was all that mattered when Jesus came to earth that first time. I see you moping around because it’s…

Fixing Your Love-Picker

Sonya (not her real name) slouched in her seat. She glanced down, ashamed to look me in the eye as she told me she’d gone back to her old “boyfriend” again. He was self-centered and more interested in using her and her car than in caring for her. “You know you have to fix your…

Instead of Resolutions, Try This for 2019

Happy New Year to my Christian singles! I hope that you had a fun but safe New Year Eve’s celebration. Hopefully, you have recovered and are surveying the freshness of this brand new year, 2019. Did you make any New Years’ resolutions? How are you doing so far this year? I’m doing okay, but it’s…

The Empty Spot in Your Holiday

One of my friends recently had a very close family member pass away unexpectedly. It was especially difficult because the family member had only been back in my friend’s life for a few years. How my heart grieves with her. I thought back to when close family members of mine—in my case, my parents—passed away,…

When Singles Suffer Well

When I was a relatively new Christian and just out of high school, there was this slightly older and very godly single woman in our fellowship that all of us younger women admired. She was tall, pretty, svelte, and sang beautifully, like a bird. She always had a gentle but radiant smile, even when things…

Are You Bringing this Stinky Bad Boy to Your Future Marriage?

One of the stinkiest fruits in the world is the infamous durian. Its stench has been compared to sewage, vomit, and dirty socks. It only grows in tropical climates in Southeast Asia, thank God! When I was a summer missionary in the Philippines, I had to hold my nose to sample a tiny piece. Eeewwwyuu!…

The Most Valuable Lesson I’ve Learned About Dating

I’m probably taking dating too seriously, because I don’t date much. I can number all the men I’ve dated on my fingers. Having a more serious, contemplative personality makes me take a long time to decide almost anything. The bigger the decision, the slower I am about it.  The fact that I’m about 60% introvert…

Dirty Dozen Reasons Why Single Christians Aren’t Being Properly Prepared for Marriage, Part 2 of 2

Last week, I shared my experience with the 5-Day Challenge to Pray For Your Future Spouse. It wasn’t so much praying for a mate, but being ready for a real marriage. #pfyfs sparked all sorts of positive responses from hundreds of participants who realized how much they needed it.  I got nearly all of this…

Dirty Dozen Reasons Why Single Christians Aren’t Being Properly Prepared for Marriage, Part 1 of 2

Last week, I participated in a remarkable time of prayer and teachings hosted by Jamal & Natasha Miller, the founders of Married & Young. Jamal is the Amazon best-selling author of 25 Ways to Prepare for Marriage Without Dating. They are committed to helping reduce the divorce rate in America and developed an amazing program…