Know What’s Better Than Loving Yourself?

I know I’m going to get in trouble with someone somewhere about this. Oh well; here goes. There is a lot of talk within the body of Christ telling us we need to love ourselves more. This is based on something Jesus said: And He said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with…

Your Dream Might Have Been From God

As a kid, did you ever see a photo of some impressive place and think, “Wow! I can’t believe that’s real! I want to see this with my own eyes someday”? New York was a city that I’d always wanted to visit, but I never made plans to go because I didn’t want to go…

Fixing Your Love-Picker

Sonya (not her real name) slouched in her seat. She glanced down, ashamed to look me in the eye as she told me she’d gone back to her old “boyfriend” again. He was self-centered and more interested in using her and her car than in caring for her. “You know you have to fix your…

Practicing Accountability is Marriage Prep, Part 2 of 2

Last week, I talked about how our contemporary Western culture inclines us singles to a severe level of independence and lack of accountability. Not being accountable to anyone can cause problems in relationships. When you don’t answer to anyone, you can keep secrets and harbor addictions that will hurt relationships. Then, after the wedding, big,…

Practicing Accountability is Marriage Prep, Part 1 of 2

We’re pretty independent in the Western world. I consider myself very independent, sometimes refusing help from someone who offers to carry something for me when they see me hobbling. First-time visitors from eastern cultures are often amazed and shocked at the levels of self-sufficiency which we display. They don’t always think it’s good. Independence is…

Instead of Resolutions, Try This for 2019

Happy New Year to my Christian singles! I hope that you had a fun but safe New Year Eve’s celebration. Hopefully, you have recovered and are surveying the freshness of this brand new year, 2019. Did you make any New Years’ resolutions? How are you doing so far this year? I’m doing okay, but it’s…

An Overlooked and Eligible Candidate

In what is perceived as today’s shrinking pool of eligible and godly bachelors and bachelorettes, how is one to go about finding an acceptable candidate? Are there other pools to fish from, especially if your church doesn’t have a singles group? (Or your church does have a singles group and well… “There’s no one there!”)…

When Singles Suffer Well

When I was a relatively new Christian and just out of high school, there was this slightly older and very godly single woman in our fellowship that all of us younger women admired. She was tall, pretty, svelte, and sang beautifully, like a bird. She always had a gentle but radiant smile, even when things…

Domestic Violence: Why Many of Us Stay Single

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. If you want to read the official proclamation, click here: Proclamation October is National Domestic Violence Month 2018. It’s sad we have to bring awareness to something so evil and pervasive, but hidden, even within the church, but here we are. It is more than a #MeToo movement…

Are You Bringing this Stinky Bad Boy to Your Future Marriage?

One of the stinkiest fruits in the world is the infamous durian. Its stench has been compared to sewage, vomit, and dirty socks. It only grows in tropical climates in Southeast Asia, thank God! When I was a summer missionary in the Philippines, I had to hold my nose to sample a tiny piece. Eeewwwyuu!…