About Those Second Chances:

It’s happening, folks. I finally bought the one-way plane ticket to fly to my missionary and ministry destination—for more than I wanted to pay, to travel later than I wanted (I arrive after my program starts). It feels surreal that I have finally gotten to this point. I imagine in exactly one week, I will…

Seven Things Jesus’ Resurrection Means to Us Single Christians

Yes, we just celebrated Easter last weekend. I understand that Jesus rose from the dead, conquered death and hell and all that (whatever “all that” means). All that happened 2000 years ago. Here I am, a single Christian in 2019, trying to live out my life. What does it mean to me, practically, that Jesus…

Scared of the New

Most of us like shiny new things of some sort: shiny new cars, unscuffed new shoes, crisp new dollar bills, and cool, new clothes. Yet when it comes to shiny new experiences, often we go meh no thanks. What is up with that? We don’t like the thought of blind dates (more often true of…

Fixing Your Love-Picker

Sonya (not her real name) slouched in her seat. She glanced down, ashamed to look me in the eye as she told me she’d gone back to her old “boyfriend” again. He was self-centered and more interested in using her and her car than in caring for her. “You know you have to fix your…

Instead of Resolutions, Try This for 2019

Happy New Year to my Christian singles! I hope that you had a fun but safe New Year Eve’s celebration. Hopefully, you have recovered and are surveying the freshness of this brand new year, 2019. Did you make any New Years’ resolutions? How are you doing so far this year? I’m doing okay, but it’s…

I Did Not Send Them, My Child

You have many influences in your life, My single child. You allow information to bombard you from social media, television and radio, friends, family, coworkers, and pastors. Through your eyes, I see the billboards, bumper stickers, junk mail, election information, T-shirts, and You Tube videos which you see. I even know each word of every…

An Overlooked and Eligible Candidate

In what is perceived as today’s shrinking pool of eligible and godly bachelors and bachelorettes, how is one to go about finding an acceptable candidate? Are there other pools to fish from, especially if your church doesn’t have a singles group? (Or your church does have a singles group and well… “There’s no one there!”)…

Domestic Violence: Why Many of Us Stay Single

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. If you want to read the official proclamation, click here: Proclamation October is National Domestic Violence Month 2018. It’s sad we have to bring awareness to something so evil and pervasive, but hidden, even within the church, but here we are. It is more than a #MeToo movement…

The Beauty of Resilience

This is the last of my Hurricane Florence stories… for now. I had just returned home from my first outing after being cooped up all weekend due to hurricane Florence. As I ambled up the driveway, enjoying the sunshine, I spied a butterfly approaching and smiled. I stopped and watched to see where she would…

Preparing for a Disaster

I moved to North Carolina over a year ago. What the weather might be like never came to mind as I prepared to move here. Upon my arrival, I was reminded that I had moved into a hurricane zone. I only heard about hurricane Florence last Tuesday when a friend from the west coast asked…