Domestic Violence: Why Many of Us Stay Single

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. If you want to read the official proclamation, click here: Proclamation October is National Domestic Violence Month 2018. It’s sad we have to bring awareness to something so evil and pervasive, but hidden, even within the church, but here we are. It is more than a #MeToo movement…

Review of The Seven Deadly Friendships

Have you ever had a friend, maybe even a long-term friend from childhood or college, turn on you? I sure the heck have. Here you thought you two were cool and there weren’t any major issues. Then you started seeing warning signs that your long-term friend wasn’t so cool. Perhaps you confided in her, and…

Dirty Dozen Reasons Why Single Christians Aren’t Being Properly Prepared for Marriage, Part 2 of 2

Last week, I shared my experience with the 5-Day Challenge to Pray For Your Future Spouse. It wasn’t so much praying for a mate, but being ready for a real marriage. #pfyfs sparked all sorts of positive responses from hundreds of participants who realized how much they needed it.  I got nearly all of this…

Dirty Dozen Reasons Why Single Christians Aren’t Being Properly Prepared for Marriage, Part 1 of 2

Last week, I participated in a remarkable time of prayer and teachings hosted by Jamal & Natasha Miller, the founders of Married & Young. Jamal is the Amazon best-selling author of 25 Ways to Prepare for Marriage Without Dating. They are committed to helping reduce the divorce rate in America and developed an amazing program…

Christian Singles and the New “Christian Atheism”

I recently learned a new term that’s actually been around for a few decades: Christian Atheism. I thought, “How could that be? How could one profess to be a Christian, literally a Christ-follower, and at the same time be an atheist, one who doesn’t believe in the existence of God?” I was genuinely puzzled. Who…

When You’re Craving That Summer Hookup: Seven Tips for Overcoming

What a gorgeous day. What a fabulous restaurant to go on a date to. What a romantic sunset. What a beautiful moonlit night. What an awesome vacation that would be. And no one to share it with. These thoughts and others may cause us single believers to wonder afresh where our soul mate is. If…

When Freedom is a Daily Holiday

Happy 4th of July to everyone here in the US as we celebrate our nation’s independence. This week, we celebrate our nation’s autonomy as a novice nation when the thirteen original colonies formally adopted the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776. We have been fighting and celebrating ever since. Celebration is an important activity…

Dangerous Sparks in the Church

I, like many other culture commentators, have observed a huge and dangerous phenomenon blazing through the body of Christ over a long period of time. It’s devouring whole entire churches, ministries, missionary communities, marriages, and singles groups. The world watches us indulging in this and, rightfully, wants no part of the gospel we preach because…

They Don’t Know What to Do With Us

As the population of the United States becomes increasingly and visibly single, it’s become conspicuous that the majority of US churches—at least 80%—don’t have singles ministries for people over the age of 35. Most singles ministries today are for millennials. I personally checked out the websites of America’s 25 biggest churches to see who had…

Do You Have the Number One Church Addiction No One is Talking About?

There is a pervasive, destructive addiction that has recently been seeping through the body of Christ. Actually, it seems to have been around the entire existence of the human race and simply worked its insidious way into the faith community. You probably know someone from church who has at least one of these symptoms: They’re…