Last week, I talked about how our contemporary Western culture inclines us singles to a severe level of independence and lack of accountability. Not being accountable to anyone can cause problems in relationships. When you don’t answer to anyone, you can keep secrets and harbor addictions that will hurt relationships. Then, after the wedding, big,…
Practicing Accountability is Marriage Prep, Part 1 of 2
We’re pretty independent in the Western world. I consider myself very independent, sometimes refusing help from someone who offers to carry something for me when they see me hobbling. First-time visitors from eastern cultures are often amazed and shocked at the levels of self-sufficiency which we display. They don’t always think it’s good. Independence is…
The Tie That Binds and Binds and Binds
For the first half of my Christian walk, I went to a mainstream denominational church that gave me the absolute best spiritual foundation that a fairly new Christian high school girl could ask for. I was well-trained in the basic spiritual disciplines befitting a follower of Christ: prayer, Bible reading & Bible study, scripture memorization,…
Top Red Flags for Single Christians to Watch for (and Avoid) in Potential Mates, Part 2 of 2
Ah, so we meet again… you, red flags, versus us, single Christians.)Yes, we know: Valentine’s Day is coming right up and we are unattached. Single. Dateless wonders. Free and don’t necessarily want to be. But we single Christians know about red flags. We know how you red flags get. You can disguise yourselves in myriads…
Wrapped and Trapped or Freed Indeed
I don’t know about you, but I’m a work in progress. Part of that progress is working out bad habits and working in good ones. Is that difficult only for me, or is it sometimes hard for you too? Oh, good, I’m not the only one! Well, let’s sit down together and have a heart-to-heart…