For years, I had tried to figure this “Love” thing out. Rejected at an early age by my earthly father, I found myself going from one broken relationship to the next, searching for love in all the wrong places. If I had a man, an entourage of friends, partying, shopping and traveling, I was living my life to the fullest! I kept doing the same old things, expecting to get a different result.
Then it happened. I was pregnant.
I had no idea that God was going to use this pregnancy to change the course of my entire life.
During my pregnancy, I began to seek God again.
I wanted to know my purpose and live a meaningful life that would please God. I wanted to start over.
I rededicated my life to Christ while my son was in my womb, repenting for my sins and dedicating my unborn child to God. Three months after the birth of my son, there came a huge wedge between me and his dad.
One evening, he received an unexpected message from a woman I didn’t know. No, this wasn’t the first time something like this had happened, but this time it was different. I had a son to raise and I didn’t have time to waste on a man who acted like a child. I wanted my son to be different from his dad in every way. I was raising a man of God. I took a stand and told his dad to choose us or the women. He packed up, left, and never returned.
I found myself at a crossroads. I had given so much of myself to a man who didn’t value me at all. I thought he loved me. How could he leave me with a child?
I never wanted it to be this way, nor did I ever want to be an unwed single parent. I felt betrayed and abandoned once again. I was devastated, lost and afraid. The pain was so bad from this heartbreak that I thought I was going to die.
Night after sleepless night, after putting my son to bed, I would find myself on the floor curled up in a fetal position, crying out to God. It had gotten so bad that I remember begging God, “Lord, either heal me or take me off this earth!” I was desperate. I was so tired of playing house, fornicating, and being a slave to sin. I needed healing and renewing. I needed His grace and His power to overcome all the hell I’d faced for so many years. Most of all, I needed God’s love and forgiveness. I realized that the relationships I had subjected myself to were not God’s will for my life.
Then one day the tears dried up and the Lord began to heal my broken heart. He called me to a life of purity.
I vowed to walk with God and obey His Word. I promised to never sleep with another man until my wedding night. There was one problem: I didn’t know anyone else who was living this lifestyle of purity. I knew that if I was going to have success walking this walk, I was going to need other like-minded, sold-out individuals in my circle.
Suddenly, the Lord led me to start and lead a singles ministry on FB called, “Christian Singles Waiting on God.” At first I thought, No one is going to join or even listen to someone who had never walked this walk before. I wrestled with launching the group for several months. I started out by simply sharing my testimony on my personal page and before I knew it, people were asking to join. I realized right then that God qualifies the unqualifiable and cleanses the incurable. He can use anyone He wants, anytime He wants, anyway He wants.
Four years later, the group had over 350 members from all over the world. We hosted events and a successful Monday night prayer call where we taught and prayed for those who were broken. We encouraged listeners to live pure lives and to spread the gospel of Jesus Christ. Some went on to start their own ministries. We even became known for being a place where several godly relationships came together and resulted in marriage. We give all of the glory and praise to our God!
One year into my walk of purity, during a young adult event at church, I became acquainted with a gentleman who would later join me on this walk of purity. Through purity, we experienced a new level of intimacy. One that wasn’t sexual, but spiritual. When I was with him, I would see the scripture Ephesians 5:25 played out right before my eyes. He watched over me, served me, and treated me like a precious and rare gem. He truly loved me as Christ loved the church.
Never had I met a man who was so strong, yet so broken before God, so willing to forsake his fleshly desires to honor my stance of purity. Though I had never before met such a man, I knew in my heart that he existed somewhere. I prayed, believed, and decreed that he would one day find his way to God’s heart to ask for mine. And that’s exactly what happened.
Two years later, on May 15th, 2015, John joined me at the altar in the presence of our righteous God and a great cloud of witnesses. We were both renewed virgins in Christ and given to each other in holy matrimony. God transformed our lives and gave us a love worth waiting for! “And let us not grow weary in well doing: For in due season we shall reap, if we faint not” (Galatians 6:9).
BIO: TreYa L. Cook
A native Marylander, minister, servant, wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend, TreYa finds joy in spreading the love of Christ and igniting faith in the lives of anyone she meets. TreYa is the owner and creative designer of Christian Culture Clothing Company. Through her designs and powerful messages, she encourages believers to “Wear their faith boldly!” She also has a sister company named Christian Culture Graphics & Ink, a full-service graphic design and print shop. The print shop helps businesses and organizations with all marketing tools such as T-shirts, banners, flyers, backdrops, wristbands, logos and more. Her business is her ministry and she is extremely thankful that God would allow her to serve God’s people in the church and in the marketplace.
TreYa is currently working toward a degree in Christian Counseling & Theology at Liberty University. She hopes to start her own Christian counseling firm within the next 3-5 years. She is also the founder of a purity group on Facebook called Christian Singles Waiting on God, which has over 350 members from all over the world (https://www.facebook.com/groups/SinglesWaitingOnGod/). This has become a place of refuge, encouragement, and accountability for those who are walking or striving to live a life of purity. When TreYa is not working hard on all her other ministries, she is working on publishing her first book on the topic of purity, which is to be released late Summer 2017. The best is yet to come!