What a gorgeous day. What a fabulous restaurant to go on a date to. What a romantic sunset. What a beautiful moonlit night. What an awesome vacation that would be. And no one to share it with. These thoughts and others may cause us single believers to wonder afresh where our soul mate is. If…
Becoming a Kingdom Power Couple
Power couples: they dominate the media and we love them for it. Like the recent marriage of Prince Harry and his fiancée Meghan Markle—now the Duke & Duchess of Sussex—power couples have confidence, authority, influence, money, separately successful careers, and good looks. All eyes dart to them when they walk into a room together. They’re just as…
Five Times When It’s Not a Good Idea to Get Premarital Counseling
If you’re a counselor, therapist, pastor, or church leader, and you read my title and thought of ways to blow off or blow up my lackadaisical attitude toward marriage: Wait! I’m actually all for premarital counseling. I’m a counselor, too. I am all for strong, biblically-based, well-prepared marriages. So why this topic? I, like you,…
(Temporarily) Checking Our Sexual Desires as Single Christians
I was doing some research in anticipation of adding a page to my blog site on a very hot topic for Christian singles: Our sexual desires. And what to do about those pesky things. I found tons of articles for Christian singles about our base but very human desires. I’ve noticed, like many of you…
Things You Need to Know About Yourself Before You Start Dating Seriously
Most singles want to get married. Though statistically, more people in today’s culture opt to stay single, most want to be married eventually. Unless all your friends are dating and getting married, there is less pressure today to marry, especially when you’re younger. Concerned family members may express their wishes for you to complete the…
Reverse the Curse While You’re Dating
Recently, someone posted the following situation on social media: If both spouses work and the husband comes home every day before the wife, should the wife still cook every day? The last time I checked, it had been up only five days and there were over 550 comments and climbing. Many of the women were…
Guest Blog Post: Concerning Abuse in Marriage and Divorce
To those who have been in abusive relationships, let me ask you this question: if a woman’s husband decides to set her on fire, do you think it is biblical for her to stay in that marriage? There has been heavy debate whether abuse is permissible as grounds for divorce. I have seen countless churches…
Christian Single’s Guide to Surviving Cuffing Season: Eight Tips
Cold, wintry weather and the Christmas holidays—a deadly duo for Christian singles—are here in full swing. You stay bundled up in layers of warm winter clothes and wish for someone romantic to kiss while you warm up your car alone under foggy windows. You long to go to Christmas parties with your romantic someone… to…
How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage While You’re Single
Just seeing the title of today’s post was painful for many of you. You were in a marriage that was destroyed by adultery. Or you were the one who helped instigate the divorce by getting involved with a married person and later regretted it. Sadly, you are not alone: statistics for those admitting having cheated…
It’s Still True About Love:
This week saw the heart-wrenching but soon giddy final episode of The Bachelorette. Rachel Lindsay wrestled through her priorities and desires and decided she was in love with Bryan Abasolo. She did not want to continue her relationship with Peter Kraus, whom many had thought she would choose. Though it was painful to watch her…